Friday, May 19, 2006

Cut Her Some Slack?

Last night, Josh W. started back to class. He had been a student several years ago, then things happened and he had to drop out for a while. In the meantime, he'd been lifting weights and got really buff.

About a year ago, he came back intending to start classes again, but got really embarrassed by the way she was throwing herself all over him. He only came to two classes, then quit again. So last night when sensei said Josh was going to start back, James and I mentioned how much she'd like that.

Sensei said, "Y'all need to cut her some slack. She's young and she's been repressed by her father. "

Yeah, right.

First off, she is nearly 22. Her birthday is only three weeks away. I know because last year on her birthday, she tried to throw herself a birthday party at the dojo. It didn't really go over so well. Point is, she's not THAT young.

Secondly, if a man went around doing the same things to women that she does to the guys in the dojo, no one would say to cut him some slack for any reason. Nooo, he'd be thrown under the jail. People would talk about what a horrible person he is. He'd be called a stalker, a molestor, a sex offender--everything short of a rapist. There might even be demands to have him castrated. He could, and most likely would, be charged with sexual assault and/or sexual battery. If he'd done some of the things I've seen her do.

Yet it is somehow ok if she does it because she's a woman, and she's been repressed.

Go figure.

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